The Secret to Succeeding on Keto While Not Becoming a Social Hermit

You Don’t Have to Choose Between Having Fun and Having a Great Body.

People Rarely Succeed Unless They Have Fun in What They Are Doing. Dale Carnegie

As a keto coach, I hear a lot of interesting objections to starting eating keto. One of the most common ones is an upcoming social event (party/wedding/holiday, etc.). The person swears a 100% commitment to keto to take care of health and weight once and for all. But only AFTER some boozing and junk food eating at the event. Because the person says, “It would be impossible to do keto while enjoying a social occasion.”

There is nothing wrong with letting loose (although Ricky Gervais has a point). It only becomes an issue if you’re bullshitting yourself into missing your health goals, and those goals are what matters to you!

So if you think you need a wakeup call, read on. I will ask you three questions to check if your postponement of keto is valid or just procrastination. If your answers hint to bullshit, I will then offer four tips for how you can have fun at your event AND do keto.

Why a Social Event Is No Excuse to Postpone Starting Keto:

1. There Will Always Be an Upcoming Social Event

Let’s say that your argument that you need to wait until after the social event is legit. Then I wonder what you will do for the next event? Surely, this will not be the last social gathering that you will ever attend in your life?

It’s fine if you don’t want to do keto. But save yourself the agony of procrastination by being honest about your commitment!

2. Perfection Doesn’t Exist

I think black-and-white thinking is more common than not among us who share food struggles. I know exactly how annoying it used to be to have something in the calendar, which I knew could derail me. Then I might as well screw up straight away with a food orgy until I could put the event behind me and start my new, PERFECTLY healthy life!

Unfortunately, that’s the kind of thinking that can keep us from ever starting healthy eating. Perfection doesn’t exist. I’m a keto coach and trust me that I’m not following keto 100% all of the time! (In fact, I ate some bread the other night at a restaurant. It was delicious, but I needed two extra hours of sleep that night to process the toxins. A reminder that life is too short without keto.)

The important thing with healthy eating is that we start, do our best, and take it one day at a time. 

3. Don’t You Want to Look and Feel Your Best at the Event?

Here are the typical results from eating keto: Loss of excess weight, glowing skin, amazing energy. I’ve experienced this myself, and I witness it all of the time in my clients. What better way to prepare for making a grand entrance and have the time of your life at the party?

My client Mohammed is an example of a person who has improved his social life thanks to keto. Mohammed shares:

Before starting keto, I was concerned about how it would affect my socializing. I’m a social person, and a diet wouldn’t work if I’d had to sit at home counting calories.

But what’s fantastic about keto is that it doesn’t feel like a ”diet” because it’s not restricting. I just need to know how to prepare myself or what to choose on the menu when I go out, and that’s precisely what I’ve learned from Alexia.

If anything, keto has improved my socializing since the fit version of myself is a lot more energetic, happy, and confident. 

How to Be Social on Keto:

1. Explain Why Keto Is Important to You

I’ve shared before how I can go mental when people push junk food on me without respecting my NO. But let’s assume that most people don’t have evil master plans of making us fat by seducing us with sugar and carbs. That makes it our job to set the boundaries. Speaking up for yourself is not about being arrogant, but about protecting your health and wellbeing! (So make sure that, as a first step, it’s’s clear to you why you choose keto.)

I don’t recommend going into a long defense speech unless you have to. Hopefully, people will accept your “No, thank you!” and couldn’t care less about why you don’t want to eat cake. But it can be good to have a line prepared if people persist with their offers. “I’m on a diet for health reasons” should be enough. (Which might set off gossip about what’s going on with you, but at least you’ll be the talk of the party.)

Don’t assume that people will understand your keto way of eating because you’ve been doing it for a long time! That’s why it can be helpful to explain before a social event.

I realized this when I had an old friend visiting me. We used to be colleagues in London before I quit that job to pursue my keto coaching. Therefore, my friend has watched me transform from a binge eating sugar addict to a keto lover. Still, for some reason, she brought me half a kilo of Swedish chocolate as a gift.

So before having a guest again, I will send an email politely saying: “If you’re bringing anything sugary, I’d appreciate it if you could please keep it out of sight for me since I’m off sugar and want to avoid temptations. Thank you!”

2. Eat for Satiation Before the Event

The fantastic thing about keto meals is that they keep you full for hours. Achieving ketosis (the metabolic state, which is the goal of the keto diet) turns off cravings, improves cognitive function, and gives a fantastic energy boost. Eating a nice keto meal straight before the party will help you stay away from event junk food.

3. Bring Keto Snacks

Cut up some vegetable sticks (cucumber and celery are good low-carb options), or make some delicious fat bombs, and bring to the party. Your own snacking needs will be covered, and perhaps you’ll convert someone else to choose a healthier path too!

4. Prepare a Keto Dessert to Come Home To

Perhaps it’s not suitable to bring a little picnic to the event. In that case, have a tasty keto treat waiting for you when you get home! It will make it a lot easier to stay away from temptations if you’ve got a reward for your efforts.


Don’t make the mistake of this blog post’s cartoon character, and think that your social life is over because you’re on keto. Say YES to the date – just stay away from the sugar and carbs on the menu.

Now, over to you. What’s YOUR excuse for not doing keto? Share it with me!

Alexia Bjarkan
Keto Coach

Alexia Bjarkan
alexia@thebenefactory.com

Keto Coach at The Benefactory.

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